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Love When You're Older

Updated: Feb 15, 2022

When you're wondering if your smile lines are stopping Mr. or Miss Right from swiping right, it's easy to forget that if you were ten years younger you wouldn't be who you are right now. Real love connections at an older age can be even more profound.

When you own where you are in your life, who you are, and are confident in your values and personality, you are more likely to find someone who is better suited for you.

If you know right away whether your first date is worthy of a second, you're setting yourself up for failure, which is a common mistake. Dating in our 40s typically means we know what we want, and we feel pressed to find it quick!

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It can be tempting to go out with a person who reminds you of someone you've already had a relationship with. And while there's something to be said for familiarity, if love didn’t work then, why would it work now?🤔

To stop history from repeating find ways to heal, whether that means going to a therapist or doing some soul-searching. Healing is the only way to date a person who isn't similar to someone who is unhealthy for you.

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Do not modify who you are, do not copy someone else's profile, and if at all possible, stay away from trite quotes. To attract the kind of person you want to be with, it's most important that your profile reflects your authentic self. Just be you!!!!

In short, don't fake your age, height, or anything else for that matter. You don't want to start off with dishonesty. Instead if you love a certain fantasy novel, write about it. If you like to dance, ski or go on walks with your dog, mention that. You are unique and awesome, so show up that way. You will connect with another person as the true unique person you are!

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One of the freedoms of being older is knowing what you want and being able to ask for it. So, if you think you may be interested in someone, you shouldn't hesitate to be the first one to initiate a conversation, or ask that person out—or even go for that first kiss!......😉

By the time most people are 40, they can handle acceptance and rejection equally. So use the confidence that comes with age to your advantage. It provides an opening that many younger people miss out on.

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The stakes can feel higher when dating in your 40’s and beyond. Every potential date may have more life experience, and often more kids. This can turn a simple first date into a "future trip of epic proportions." But instead of jumping ahead and wondering how your kids will get along, take dating one step at a time. We are most powerful in the present moment, so use that power to your advantage when dating, and keep your attention on what is immediately in front of you.

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